An Easter Stay at Home idea

The COVID-19 epidemic is changing the way we do things this year. Whether you are sick or not, churches are closed, families that live apart will shelter in place, and people who celebrate together with an Easter dinner will be eating alone. We have been told to stay home. The holiday weekend that so many people celebrate will be different this year.

But does that mean you can’t celebrate Easter? By all means, no! Easter is a matter of the heart, and we can still pray, and read the events surrounding the resurrection in our Bibles. We can also watch multiple church services, and find inspiration for this season.

But is that enough? For adults the answer might be yes … but for families with children, it is not enough.

Of course families can still give Easter baskets, candy, and celebrate with a small Easter Egg hunt in the back yard, but do these things really teach the message of the Bible.

I must stop and confess at this point that Easter Egg hunts have always confused me. I have looked in my Bible, performed concordance searches, read commentaries, and have never found where the Easter bunny appears in scripture. I have looked at biology texts and even read Ripley’s Believe it or not, and have not found one case where a rabbit laid an egg that produced a chicken! Honestly, is this the message we are supposed to share at Easter?

I would like to suggest a different plan for families: act out the story. Several years ago we did a “live nativity” with parts for our church. The play was nine scenes long (Pilate’s throne room, the Upper Room, Disciples in hiding, women at the gate, the donkey farmer, soldiers at the cross, Nicodemus, Angels at the Tomb, and Jesus in the Garden). The scenes require 3 or 4 actors per scene, and tell the real story of Easter.

During a “stay at home” Easter, this would be a fantastic way to share the story as a family. It would teach children about the events in the Bible, and could start a new family tradition.

In my Jewish family, Biblical stories were told dynamically. Like, at Passover, the story is told with food, an afikomen hunt, and a visit by Elijah. This happens every year, and the story has stuck with me.

As an educator, I know children learn more when they are involved. The more senses used during a lesson, the longer it will be remembered. So … if you want your children to really remember the Easter message, dress them up, give them props and parts, and act out the scenes of the story of Easter with them.

Do you need a great resource? My book, The Case of the Missing Body” contains the story as a play. It has clear parts, and can be acted out. One copy of this book can be passed around, and the whole family can enjoy the fun this Easter. The book is only 99￠, and because it is an e-book, you can order it from Amazon.com and get it today! Click the link here: LINK. This is what the book looks like.

The Resurrection Drama for Churches and Families

This Easter, while you are home, do something different! Do something your family will remember FOREVER, put on a play and tell the real story of what happened at Easter.

DIY Easter

What are you doing for Easter this year. For many families this season is heartily anticipated. There is a 40 day period of preparation called Lent; then comes Palm Sunday when people begin to remember Jesus’ last week on earth; and finally there is the weekend with Maundy Thursday (Passover), Good Friday, and Resurrection Day. Churches prepare huge celebrations, dramas, cantatas, and special services (which will be remote this year). People purchase Sunday clothing, plan Easter Egg Hunts, and large family gatherings. BUT ...

This is the year that everything External will be different. There will be no large community gatherings because of the COVID-19 epidemic. We must stay home. So what will Easter be like? Perhaps, in its own way, for one year, better, because, if we will, we can focus on the internal meaning rather than the external events.

So, what is Easter? Is it the clothing, the chocolates, the choir specials, or the crowds? Not really! Easter celebrates the atoning death and the surprising resurrection of Jesus. Easter celebrates LIFE (not life with gusto, which only distracts us from real life - but LIFE that connects with God and goodness). So, what will you be doing this Easter?

It is time for a do it yourself Easter.

How can you do that? Plan! If you have children, here is a recommendation. Purchase a Kindle version of the book “The Case of the Missing Body.” (It is 99￠, hope that does not break the bank!) It contains a nine act play, and some added stories and facts. Most of the acts only require 2-4 actors, and are written so children can understand. Pass the book around, and read the parts. Then talk about how each scene fits into the larger Easter story.

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Children learn by doing … not by sitting in a church service. This play is doing! Your family will greatly benefit if you will spend the hour you normally spend in church, reading through this play. Don’t fight the system, don’t mourn the loss of normal … just do something different, and you will be glad you did! (And talk about it for years!)

The book is on Amazon.com - click here!

This Easter is a great time for something different! A great time for DIY, with help, of course. So try it out.

And please pass this idea on, so others can enjoy Easter, wrapped in its full meaning also.

Passover across the Miles

As we close in on Passover eve, I hope everything is falling in place for your virtual Seder. Yes, this year will be different than all others, and we might end with the phrase בשנה הבאה בנורמליות (Next year with normalcy), instead of בשנה הבאה בירושלים (Next year in Jerusalem). The big thing is that our family gathers at Pesach must go on!

If you have followed this blog, I would like to know how it went! Did the virtual Passover work for you. If you used (or even looked at) my new Psalmatic Seder, what did you think. I will make a few edits for next year, so, comments will help.

A new Haggadah from the book of Psalms

In today’s blog, we will consider the final two questions from the list of questions that appeared in my April 1 blog:

5. On all other Passovers we converse around the room and share the Haggadah together … Why on this Passover will we converse from house to house?

Of course, the answer to this is social distancing due to Coronavirus prevents us from gathering together, as normal, in the same house. In this age of technology, we can still virtually gather, stringing multiple houses together electronically. I have shared ideas on how to do this in the last several blogs (beginning April 1).

This week I also watched a training video about using Zoom for a video platform. It is an hour long, visit the Centralsynagogue facebook page, and click on the video link. It is called: DIY Zoom Seder Tutorial. There are many great hints on how to do this, and other things to include in the Seder. Time of the video is about an hour.

The goal for this Passover is to see and talk to many others at the same time, while we stay in the safety of our virus free home environment. The idea is to graduate from individual cell phones to a central computer that captures everyone, and can be used in leading a family Seder, along with individual phones for message and pictures, connecting multiple homes and creating an experience which will almost mimic being in the same room.

8. On all other Passovers either bubbe does all the cooking, or we each bring our favorite dishes … Why on this Passover do we share recipes, each cook our own and share the tastes?

No, dinner won’t be the same! But we can try. There can be three approaches to this: a) Everyone cooks the same traditional foods; b) One person does the cooking, and the food is carted in individual containers to each house; 3) Everyone does their own thing, and compares their food with pictures and descriptions to see who’s is the best. {With option 3, a new tradition could be established!}

This year, of all years, is a good time to create a virtual cookbook. What are the traditional recipes of your Passover … and not just Pesach eve, but also the next seven mornings as we use Matzoh instead of bread. How do we make Matzo brei, macarons and other special foods. It might be time to get the next generation involved in cooking … since they are home from school.

In past blogs, you have seen, the table should be set with table cloth, cloth napkins silverware, fine china and our best glasses. Also candles, seder plate and matzo tash. We should spare nothing at making this a great Seder, although separated physically, we must celebrate together. And remember, there is coming a day when the CDC and WHO will let our people go, and we can eat together under the same roof once again.

Creatively Socially Distancing

Passover Seders are supposed to be relational and fun! We raise our glasses for prayers, then clink and say L’Chaim together. During the Seder a child is instructed to ask four questions (then to sit back on a cushioned chair … but not fall asleep). We watch for reactions to the maror, and laugh and sing a song about a little goat. Without planning our self quarantined Seders will be somber and lonely.

With creativity and forethought we can create interaction throughout the evening. One suggestion already given is to use a computer (with good Bluetooth speakers) for the main Seder. We can also text and hold side conversations on the cell phone during the evening. Pictures can also be made and sent back and forth.

But there are other things we can do. These are from a list of questions that appear in my April 1 blog:
     9. On all other Passovers after the Matzoh is broken, a piece goes missing and must be found by the children … Why must the children search in multiple houses on this night?

My challenge for Passover is to think out of the box, literally. Normally, during the Passover Seder the Afikoman is snatched and hidden. But what if the grandkids are not in your house - How can they search for the hidden Matzoh? It could be that the leader of the Seder would respond to the children’s instructions of “turn right” or “go straight” along with the “Hot” or “Cold” remarks, but why not think out of the house? This year, the Afikomen could be snatched virtually. This takes coordination. What is important for proof that the Matzoh is actually the same is the wrapping … it must be in the same covering.

Here is what you must do: The leader and one of the attendees will coordinate the hiding of the Matzoh. When the Matzoh is “snatched,” it disappears out of the house. The search can begin within the house, but when all leads are exhausted, the leader should hint at, “Did someone reach in through the computer and move the Afikomen to their house?” A series of questions, and a continued search can ensue … with denials, and cell phone texts and calls as grandchildren look in their own homes for the Afikomen. Make it challenging and fun!

This is a chance to show off things within each person’s homes, that might not be noticed in a normal visit. Allow the search time to be completed.

10. On all other Passovers we open one door to welcome Elijah … why on this night do we open many doors for the great prophet?

Normally at our Seder, all the children open the door together in order to greet Elijah. But this year is different! There will be children at every house served by our virtual Seder. What can you do? Send them each to their own doors, along with the computer or cell phone video. But can we do more?

Think about how you would greet a special visitor at your home. With song, with signs, confetti, in your pajamas, in a tuxedo? You get the idea. We are to think outside the box, and make a show virtually. Let the door openers use props, songs, or drama at the door. Plan a virtual award for the most creative welcome for Elijah. This should make the Passover Seder lots of fun!

Thinking outside of what we normally do, that is what my newest book, Psalmatic Seder is about. Many of my readings said, “the Passover Seder is not really that old … it came into the form we use in the Middle Ages.” As I thought about these articles I was reading, I thought about the Book of Psalms, possibly dating to the time of the first Temple, definitely written before 200 BC. Psalm 78 and 105 are actually Passover Haggadahs. THese formed the basis for this Haggadah. The Seder follows the normal 15 steps (and unsurprisingly, so does the Book of Psalms) so I followed this format, but used some different verses. This presentation will produce a familiar, but refreshing Passover Celebration. Please look up the Psalmatic Seder on Amazon.com

Pesach from Psalms, a new idea!

A Virtual Reality Passover Seder

Before Passover we remove the chomaytz, clean the house, change out the dishes, plan and cook the perfect menu, dress up the table with a table cloth, cloth napkins, silver, our finest china, best glasses, and sometimes even name placards (even though everyone knows each other). We are not happy until everything is perfectly in place. BUT This Pesach is different!

Each family will set their own table, plan their own menu, and take charge of things in their homes, which will be displayed on the computer screen. Which says, what I have mentioned before - put the effort into the Seder event, and it will be great! But it will not be perfect … The first time we attempt something new, it never is. There is a lot to be learned.

I want to look at how it can become more real, and a place where the room real will not carry across (and can even be controlled).

4. On all other Passovers we clink the wine glass and share l’chaims four times during the Seder, and multiple times before and after … Why on this night are the glasses not from the same set?  (for full list of questions, see blog for April 1)

On Passover (and at other times) we make a big deal about saying the kiddish and drinking the wine. We often lift glasses after the prayer with a l’chaim and a clink. We should still do that! The computer screen is glass. To properly clink wine glasses, even across 2,000 miles or more, a) notice where the little camera is on your computer; b) bring the glass to the camera window and the screen; and c) clink. You can even pause for a moment (a short, fraction of a second) when the wine glass approaches the camera (starting about ½ inch from the lens). This gives a nice effect. The clink is real (whether the computer is made of plastic or steel, it will clink, and so will the screen), just be sure you don’t clink too hard … you don’t want to break the wine glass or the computer. Remember, even though some of our families are miles away, the joy and festivity should be real. If we practice that real from the first glass of wine all the way through to the fourth glass, the enthusiasm will build, and we might not even realize how many miles separate us from the ones we love.

7. On all other Passovers we sing the Dayenu loudly and off key until we run out of words (which is more than enuff), and it sounds horrible … Why on this night do we have volume control?

OK … the singing might not be like real. Computers miss out on the room effect of music, because or voices fill the space naturally, rather than making electronic static on a computer. IF good speakers are connected to the computer (by Bluetooth … you can even do stereo or surround sound - something to plan early), the quality will be much better, even though it is not the same.

And then there is the matter of losing control to someone else. If your voice is not good, and you enjoy booming out the tune so loudly it covers up your sister’s voice … well, it is not the same. Your sister will turn down the volume on her computer (or even mute you! Oy vey), which is not Kosher (although my sister says it is, which is natural and right, for some of these arguments happen on Passover night).

On this Passover night we will just have to put up with losing control on the other person’s computer. But … we can call (see questions 1 & 3, blogged about on April 2) in order to kvetch.

Speaking of music, I developed a Haggadah from Psalms (a New Haggadah in an older format than what we use today). It contains 17 traditional songs with music notation from the Passover Haggadah. I would appreciate if you take a look in the preview mode on Amazon, and maybe even buy a copy, just to see what it is. Please look up the Psalmatic Seder on Amazon.com

  

A new Musical Haggadah for Passover

A Passover in forced Diaspora

There is no doubt about it, this Pesach will be different than any other. The joyous festivity that comes from interaction as a family, following of traditions, the telling of the story, and a great dinner will not be the same this year. The family will be separated and the fantastic feast will be downsized. BUT it can be more that what we think, just different.

As an educator and a participant of many Seders, I want to bring us as close to normal as possible. I think many of us are already understand that one solution is a video app on social media. I want to lay out some ideas on how to use this tool to bring a degree of normalcy to our Passover eve.

Two days ago, I made a list of questions to help us in re-creating a quality Seder in the midst of troubling times. In the answers of these questions, I hope to pull out usable ideas to bring togetherness even when we are separated from extended family. If you have other ideas, please use comment section to share with others, and help us all do a better job this year at our Seders. Also, read the ten questions from April 1, and five following days for answers (two per day).

2. On all other Passovers we light one candle or two … why on this night of Passover do we light many candles, and who says the blessing?

One of the important things that needs to happen this year at our Seders is duplication. Don’t try to take shortcuts … it will lead to loss. When you use Social Media to guide Passover Seders in multiple homes, each home needs to have all the accompanying props. This begins with the candles.

As the Seder gets underway, one person (the person who normally does this) should say the blessing and light the candle. That is, on the main computer for Passover eve (see yesterday’s blog).

Each home represented during the evening also needs candles, as close as possible to what is normally used. Virtual candles are … virtual. There is something about the presence of an actual flame that fascinates us. The flame wavers with the environment of the room, and we are fascinated by its dance. Each clandle burns on its own time table. One of the games we played at a Shabbos dinner was to notice when each person’s candle went out, and watched the smoke. Don’t shortchange the props. Every house needs to have them.

The candles can be lighted with one blessing (given on the main computer), and lighted simultaneously.

6. On all other Passovers we each take a nosh from a big fancy Seder plate set by the big fluffy matzoh tosh … Why on this night must we set our specialty foods on a dainty side dish?

The thought on the candle needs to continue with the Seder plate and Matzoh. Each prop and item needs to be duplicated. Although the Seder can be led from across the street, or from thousands of miles away, the food must be tasted by our tongues. Each home should have a Seder plate with all the elements. If there is a family recipe (for the Charosis), it should be shared. Each family needs its own shank bone and Matzoh, also. Wine should be available on all tables, and refilled at appropriate times.

The tastes and sounds of the Seder creates the proper environment. The secret for today is, don’t take shortcuts.

While each family should use its normal Haggadah (and have a copy for each person, like normal), I developed a Haggadah from Psalms (a New Haggadah in an older format than what we use today). I would appreciate you taking a look in the preview mode on Amazon, and maybe even buing a copy, just to see what it is. Please look up the Psalmatic Seder on Amazon.com

The Virtual Passover

Why is this night different than all other nights? On all past Passover nights we gathered as a family and friends in someone’s home to enjoy the festivity, the food and to participate in the Pesach Haggadah together. This year is different! We are like slaves in bondage, confined in our homes and practicing social distancing for fear of the Coronavirus. But it does not have to be this way!

In the past we might have been forced to do the Seder alone, or as a small group … but this year we have technology! There are multiple platforms available so we can do the Passover together. We have never celebrated Passover in this way before … But as an educator, I have led other events, and want to use my experience to maintain the greatness and quality of this festival.

In the spirit of the four questions and Ten things that plague us in the midst of the pandemic this year, I created a list of questions to be answered over the next five days (two per day). The information shared in the answers will help us to have a decent Seder, although not all we dreamed of. The list of questions can be found in yesterday’s blog.

Today’s theme is how to maintain closeness and relationships, even when we are apart.

On all other Passovers we greet each other with hugs and kisses (including those from bubble which are always slobbery) in person or through the cell phone … why on this night only through the cell phone?

In former times, when I was young my family used to gather at my uncle’s home, where my father, his brother,their wives, six children and my grandmother used to spend the afternoon with each other, before sitting down for the teachings of the Seder and a grand meal. As a child, I came to know and appreciate my cousins during this time together.

So what about bubble's slobbery kiss? Well, it can still happen. How so, you ask, when we are required to keep our social distancing. The answer is by cell phone. Using our cell phones, with video on, we can show our faces, and Grandma, on her end can kiss the screen of the phone (make sure she has wipes available). The end result here might be better than what is normal, for the children’s cheeks stay dry, and no infection is passed.

Actually the cell phone or tablet can be used for a variety of socialization activities. There can be games, conversations, and created events as the cousins, and others invited to the Seder socialize and plot together. This year, like all other years can be a time of conversation and relationship building. And in the years to come will be a matter of conversations and story telling due to our creativity in orchestrating a memorable event.


On all other Passovers we sit across the table and fill the room with great conversation, sometimes with increasing volume just to hear and be heard … Why on this night do we need a computer and a cell phone?

Continuing from the thought shared above, we need to realize that our time around the table is not spent strictly focused on the teachings of the Haggadah or what the Seder leader has to say. We carry on side conversations, tell jokes and make comments on the teacher. We should not lose that feature of our evening.

So how can we capture the normal goings on of the evening?

First, there should be a set teacher for the evening. A social media platform should be used on a computer (not a cell phone) because the screen is larger and because the cell phone needs to be available for other purposes. A laptop computer should be made available at each home, on the table, with a view of as many people as possible. This gives visual cues, like members of the family are sitting across the table from each other.

Everything official needs to occur through this media, one the central computer. The reading of the Haggadah should be done as normally as possible. The leader should respond to the story with jokes, stories and anecdotes as usual. This makes for consistency, and the quality of the teaching.

BUT it should be remembered that the teaching is not all that goes on.

Each participant also needs a cell phone. They can call family members at other houses to make side comments, tell jokes, and maintain all manner of banter as normal. This can be by text or talk. It must be done quietly, as an undercurrent, as is normal at the table. If it is too loud, it can be called down. The leader just needs to remember, not every phone call or text needs to be commented on … in fact most should be overlooked, and the story will go on.

The more years we celebrate the Passover, the more familiar we are, so participants will not lose their places. They will continue relationship building. And in an unusual time, some elements of normalcy can continue.

More tomorrow.

Before I go, I need to promote a different Haggadah, one from the book of Psalms. It is a research project of mine, to see what Passover eve looked like in the time of the first Temple. Not surprisingly, it was much the same. That means the kisses of bubble, the banter of the cousins, and the high level discussions of the parents occurred back then, just as it does today. And the Haggadah … well, it was memorized, and told in poetic form, like what is found in the book of Psalms. Look up the Psalmatic Seder on Amazon.com

A New Haggadah with Music from Psalms

Virtual Seder

How can this night of Passover be the same as all other Passovers … but Different!

1. On all other Passovers we greet each other with hugs and kisses (including those from bubbe which are always slobbery) in person or through the cell phone … why on this night only through the cell phone?

2. On all other Passovers we light one candle or two … why on this night of Passover do we light many candles, and who says the blessing?

3. On all other Passovers we sit across the table and fill the room with great conversation, sometimes with increasing volume just to hear and be heard … Why on this night do we need a computer and a cell phone?

4. On all other Passovers we clink the wine glass and share l’chaims four times during the Seder, and multiple times before and after … Why on this night are the glasses not from the same set?

5. On all other Passovers we converse around the room and share the Haggadah together … Why on this Passover will we converse from house to house?

6. On all other Passovers we each take a nosh from a big fancy Seder plate set by the big fluffy matzoh tosh … Why on this night must we set our specialty foods on a dainty side dish?

7. On all other Passovers we sing the Dayenu loudly and off key until we run out of words (which is more than enuff), and it sounds horrible … Why on this night do we have volume control?

8. On all other Passovers either bubbe does all the cooking, or we each bring our favorite dishes … Why on this Passover do we share recipes, each cook our own and share the tastes?

9. On all other Passovers after the Matzoh is broken, a piece goes missing and must be found by the children … Why must the children search in multiple houses on this night?

10. On all other Passovers we open one door to welcome Elijah … why on this night do we open many doors for the great prophet.

A new Passover Haggadah for the Musically inclined

With the dangers of Coronavirus invading our lives this Passover Season, the evening will be different. Although we can not be physically present with our family, we can be with them virtually. I will do that with my family, and also some friends. I thought about this … because I do not want the evening to flop, so over the next few days, I will answer the questions above, and a few more. Planning ahead will prevent the dull spots and the failures of this evening, and help us do it right. If you have suggestions, or ideas, please write them in the comment section. Through sharing together this can be a great Passover evening.